Monday, April 11, 2016

Losing My Sweet Daddy

My sweet little parents, Fred and Lorene (Rene) Mills, oh how we adore them!
On Friday we lost my sweet daddy to Cancer. He was in hospice for a very short time before he left us. We are so thankful that he did not have to linger and his pain is now gone, God is so good.
My daughter, my brothers and I all read something we had written at the funeral. I am going to share mine here, for my online friends and to have on record.
Read on April 10th 2016 at my father, Fred Mills' funeral.
'As I sat at the hospice center last Thursday-watching my little daddy resting-a million thoughts were going through my mind.
It's like I'm an observer as my mind sifts through memories, some great, some very difficult. I was two years old when my parents divorced. I was 29 when they met again. I was 30 when I was matron of honor at their wedding, in those in between years I was raised by my mother and never saw my father.
It was an interesting experience getting to know my father as an adult and to be honest I had a lot of anger to sift through and maybe a big of growing up to do. I eventually came to realize it wasn't about me. I had a wonderful husband and a very happy marriage, my parents had a chance at that for the second time-I wanted that for them, we all did.
They went on to have 25 wonderful years together and I got to know my dad-he was always happy-always loving and a very funny guy.
Back to the hospice room: I started wondering what he was thinking. Can he hear us? It didn't really matter at that point-we had said all that needed to be said. We had our usual argument of who loves who more-for the record, my daddy, I love you more!
It does seem like he went away so very quickly-just last Saturday he was joking with the transport drivers that brought him to the hospice center. Just one week later he took his last breath. How wonderful that our Heavenly Father showed us such mercy in making the end swift for his faithful servant. As his family, that adore him, how could we not be thankful for that? His pain is gone and his earthly journey was a long one. 
In his 85 years on earth he had many adventures-I have a feeling he's experiencing the greatest adventure of all right now.
(For those reading that did not know my father, you need to know that he had an arsenal of jokes, all very clean, all very corny but he had the knack of making you laugh every single time! Oh yeah, just so you name is Judy ;)
Today-I would like to be his voice-I want to tell you what I think he would want you to know.
Here is Freddies' top ten list of things you need to know!:
1. Don't be sad. I was blessed with incredible children and grandchildren that I loved so very much. I am so proud of each and every one of them...But...umm....Judy was my favorite!
2. That brings me to #2-What do children and loose bowels have in common? The run in your jeans/genes! If your parents didn't have children-chances are you won't either!
3. After being without my little Rene I was once again honered to be her husband and love and take care of her for 25 years! She's my sweetheart!
4. Remember-Judy was my favorite!
5. Always hold onto this-I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13. This will help you get through this and much more in your life.
6. Did you know I traveled to every state but Alaska? Turns out Heaven's beauty surpasses it all! Of course that's no surprise.
7. I know my jokes were repetitious and maybe a bit corny! You see, I just loved to make you smile and hear your laughter.
8. My pain is gone-I'm so enjoying walking the streets of Gold!!!
9. I want to thank you all for being here for my family and for loving me. I love you too. Please take care of my Rene.
10. This one is very important! Judy was my favorite..!
That's it.
My daddy in a nutshell-loving everyone and finding joy in every day.' 
Our loss is truly Heaven's gain. But my daddy lives on in the faces and lives of his children and grandchildren!

1 comment:

Debbie Harris said...

Judy~~What a heart felt post.As I read your words shared at your dear dads funeral I can't help but think of the loss of my very own dad nearly one year ago this coming May. I had to laugh at your precious humor about being your dads favorite, or his # 1 as that is exactly how it is with my sisters. We have more fun with that. I was the oldest girl, so my dad would always say that I was his # 1, even though I still believe I was his favorite. *WINK WINK*
What an amazing story of the love between your mom and dad, and how they reunited after all those years. Only God!

My heart felt condolences for your loss.
What a joy that you know where he is, and that one day you will be reunited with him.

Love and Blessings~~