...and to aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, as we instructed you, so that you may walk properly before outsiders and be dependent on no one. 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12
The image above is titled 'All is Well'. If you click on the image it will take you to allposters.com where you can purchase the image. I really love the simple beauty of it.
We've had a couple of frustrating weeks here at our little cottage. Our car started to have some brake issues so we parked it until we could get it in for service. We had Dan's truck so when he got home from work we would run our errands. The second day of this situation, the brake line on his truck somehow leaked brake fluid everywhere, so now no truck! We only have two autos and both of them are well over 10 years old but we like to buy used drive them until they die. It helps immensely with our budget to do it this way. So, now two cars down and none left but Dan does need to get to work, doesn't he? This couldn't have happened when he was off work for 5 months!!! Anyway, the car is being fixed and we borrowed my sweet little mama's car for a few days until we get it back.
On top of this, life suddenly starting moving at mach speed and I'm truly a horse and buggy speed kinda girl. On top of the issues at hand in our own lives, we are concerned about the state of our country, the situations going on in the world, so much to be concerned about isn't there? I know some folks just turn on CNN and sit there watching the news as it happens, can't imagine why anyone would do that. First of all, I would only watch Fox News if I watched TV but also why watch the news happen that you can do absolutely nothing about? We need to be informed but with all the instant and constant news networks it's information overload! It can really get to you, then there's the earthquake in CA, thankfully there were no deaths but it's all things that stop you in your tracks to pray for those involved at that moment.
I believe what we do after we pray is not sit down in front of the TV to watch it all, that's totally counter productive, what good is that doing those folks involved? After we pray, I think we are to let it go, don't continue to fret over it. How do we do that? Well, if you're a Christian you must remember that God is in control of everything, that' right everything. Our Heavenly Father has His mighty Hand in it all and no matter how it works it, after we give it to Him, we move on. There is much to be done in our lives, there is much to be done for the Kingdom of God, fretting over things is not productive to doing what the Lord would have us to do.
What it all comes down to is this: If God is on His throne, All is Well....and that's really all we need to 'know'. I'm so very thankful for His Grace, it's what motivates me to put one foot in front of the other and keep going! In Him.
Sometimes I wonder if anyone has moments of true silence. I would love to experience more of it. It seems the world around us is intent on making noise. I'm sitting here in front of my computer in my home and I still can't find the silence. Of course as I'm typing I'm making my own noise, the keys on the keyboard are a bit clicky, I can hear myself sniffle a little from allergies and our A/C unit is outside this room so it's roaring away outside. But what I'm searching for is some true silence, time to let you mind catch up with your thoughts, no distractions, just silence. Last night I had a harder time going to sleep than usual and I found that even in the total of darkness of our home there were noises that just won't go away. Our fridge makes some sounds, the A/C, the night creatures in our woods (I happen to love their sounds :), it seems that there is nowhere to go to just have silence. I imagine being at the top of a mountain far, far away from civilization would be pretty quiet, of course there would be critters, the wind blowing, but that would be Heavenly. I was watching a video of a homesteader making a meal in a microwave vs. homemade and I thought of how wrong it seemed for that microwave to be in her home. She has a cabin that she built herself and they are off grid so that microwave just didn't fit in, especially when she started pushing the buttons on it, dings and beeps, it just didn't fit in the surroundings, but of course that was her point and I'm sure it was a borrowed microwave because she mentioned that she didn't like the look of it in her cozy cabin. I can't blame her! We haven't owned a microwave for many, many years but it's because we wanted to simplify and that was something we could definitely do without, hubby misses one occasionally but I can't imagine why because his food is warmed and cooked for him, but he's used to the one at work and kinda misses it but he understands that I don't like them. Well, I'm going to continue to search for my silence, it will be difficult while hubby's home because the TV is always on when he's here. When he's at work it is never turned on, I don't watch TV, there's nothing worth watching but the Duggars and he records that for Katie and I to have little marathons every now and then. I think the sound on the TV that bothers me the most is the 'laugh track', it's just such a ridiculous thing, it's canned laughter, not even real at the moment. Maybe that's the problem, too many things on TV are not real, I get so very tired of all the fake and phony, life just shouldn't be all about TV.......
I call clinical depression 'the pit', if you've ever dealt with it you'll know what I mean, if you haven't, please read on for an inside look at the clinically depressed.
I have been dealing with chronic clinical depression for over 20 years. I do not have the horror of it everyday, thankfully. I usually have a couple of weeks of really bad dropping into the pit in the early fall, the rest of the time I'm pretty good. Of course I take medication every single day for it and probably will for the rest of my life. I want to share a few thoughts from inside the mind of the clinically depressed person. First I want to give you the symptoms, so you can watch for them in yourself if you're having any problems and to help you help others if you see multiple symptoms in them. The KEY in all of this is to get the help needed, immediately. They may think there is nothing to be done but YOU have to be proactive, demand they see a doctor and take them there. There are way too many medications that will help for folks to be dealing with 'the pit'. There are way too many that are suffering, when help is just a few steps away.
First of all, the symptoms are:
Loss of interest in normal daily activities
Feeling sad or down
Crying spells for no apparent reason
Trouble focusing or concentrating
Difficulty making decisions
Unintentional weight gain or loss
Being easily annoyed
Feeling fatigued or weak
Loss of interest in intimacy
Thoughts of suicide or suicidal behavior
Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches
you know someone with more than half of these symptoms please have them
get help, most of the time when you are in the midst of it you have no
idea that you are dealing with symptoms of a treatable illness, you just
assume you're crazy...and you definitely are not. I
will say that when I was initially diagnosed I had every symptom, it
was both enlightening and terrifying. I was so glad to give my problem a
name and know there was help but I hated the stigma of it. If you
don't know about clinical depression it is a chemical imbalance, not
just the blues, it needs to be treated with medication, it is an illness
just as any other medical problem.
Now for my thoughts on how to deal with someone in 'the pit': If
you notice I am acting different than usual, say something, I may not
even notice that I need to up my meds without those around me telling
me. Then followup with me to make sure I did something about it.
When you're so very down you just think nothing will help, there are
plenty medications for it now so generally there will be med just for me.
If you know I'm in the middle of a setback and am waiting for the meds to work:
tell me to cheer up, your normal mood is totally unattainable for me
right now, sometimes it's more than I can do just to get up in the
Don't tell me
to have more faith, if the Lord chooses to heal me it will be His
decision not mine, this is just being downright cruel.
Don't tell me to just smile and I'll feel better...won't work.
tell me that you know this or that person that tried something that
worked for them...I've been dealing with this for over 20 years, I know what
works for me.
Don't tell me horror stories of people you know with my illness, this will just knock me lower down in the pit.
tell other people about my illness unless you ask me first, I know the
look people give you when they think you are 'depressed', I'm not
depressed, I have a chemical imbalance that needs to be fixed with meds.
look at me with the look I mentioned above, I don't need your sympathy,
I just need you to treat me normal and understand that I will be okay
in a few weeks.
Don't tell me to see a psychiatrist, my doctor will know if I need that much help.
Don't stop at my home without calling, life is not great right now and I may not want to have any visitors.
expect me to do something just because you think it will be good for
me, when you are so very far down it's impossible to see the light, even
looking at the sun is sad because I so love the sun but it just reminds
me of how I cannot enjoy anything right now.
Now for the Do's:
Do pray for me and tell me you are, I love the thoughts of being lifted up the Lord when I may simply be unable to pray.
call me and talk, I'll let you know if I need to go....it helps to
sometimes have someone cry with me just because they're sad that I'm
Do tell me you love me, right now I feel so unlovable and truly I can't love back right now, that emotion is just too far away.
hug me, but gently and just for a second, a big part of clinical
depression is the physical pain...I compare it to what I've heard of
Do help me
if I have no one else, so many folks suffer alone and my heart breaks
for them, it's simply hard to function right now.
get others to offer to help me, I can use all the help I can get right
now. (Not me personally, I have my family that caters to me right now,
as I would them if they were ailing).
demand that I see a doctor if you notice the symptoms and know I'm not
getting help, the symptom of thoughts of suicide are very real and sadly
take too many folks that just needed a diagnosis and some meds.
(again, not me personally)
remember when I'm better to start including me again, this is only a
setback and in my case I generally only have one a year just for a few
Remember, that I
will be myself again soon, don't pity me, just quietly understand and
once I tell you I'm better treat me just as you did before...unless you
didn't treat me well, if you did you might want to be nice!...LOL...see I
can still have a bit of humor!
remember...these are just my thoughts but I know from all these years
of having clinical depression what helps and what makes things worse.